1. Show up. Just as Woody Allen said that “Eighty percent of success is showing up,” a big part of friendship is showing up. Whenever you have the chance to see other people, take it. Go to the party.
2. Join a group. Being part of a group, where you have common interests and are brought together automatically, is the easiest way to make friends: starting a new job, taking a class, having a baby, joining a congregation, or moving to a new neighborhood are great opportunities to join a group.
3. Form a group. If you can’t find an existing group to join, start a group based around something that interests you.
4. Say nice things about other people. Aside from it being a good way to behave; also, studies show that because of the psychological spontaneous trait transference, people unintentionally transfer to you the traits you ascribe to other people. So if you tell Janet that Jackie is arrogant, unconsciously Janet associates that quality with you. On the other hand, if you say that Jackie is hilarious, you’ll be linked to that quality.
5. Set a target. When you enter a situation where you meet a new set of people, set a goal of making one new friend. This seems artificial, but somehow, this shift will make you behave differently, it makes you more open to people, it prompts you to make the effort to say more than hello.
6. Make an effort to smile. Studies show that the amount of time you smile during a conversation has a direct effect on how friendly you’re perceived to be.
7. Make friends with friends-of-friends. Good people know good people. So friends-of-friends is an excellent place to start if you’re trying to expand your circle.
Big Ups and a hug and all the credit to Star Jones for great article
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